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Why Settle? The Problem with Being Accommodating

“When you settle for less than what you deserve you get less than what you settled for.” – Maureen Dowd

At first, settling may seem like the best option for you. It is often the most convenient, simple and safe route that offers stability and routine in your day-to-day life. Living a secure and consistent life is not entirely a bad thing; some may even believe it is their destiny. But what settling fails to offer is room for possibility. It’s the place from which comfortable things come, but not the surprising, exciting and unanticipated opportunities that dreams are made of. Believe it or not, settling for less than what’s best for you can lead to a never-ending cycle of compromise.

I have settled countless times before by believing the choices I made are ones I truly deserved. Accepting a job, instead of going after a dream career that required schooling, change or rejection because of my uncertainty of these factors. Compromising myself by doing things that made everyone else happy but me, because of my fear of using the word ‘no’. Being someone’s option when they were my priority, because of insecurities that made me believe I didn’t deserve to be loved. Denying myself of shopping for clothing that I coveted until I lost those 50+ lbs., because of low self-esteem that convinced me I wasn’t worthy of fashion-forward styles.

Like so many others, I am guilty of living a life where I compromised my goals and settled for less than I deserved. In return, I received less than what I settled for. The art of not settling requires hard work, time, self-improvement and other factors that may intimidate you, but it is during this time that you will learn who you truly are. By facing my fears and insecurities that caused me to settle, I learnt more about myself than I ever imagined. I learnt what made me happy, how to love my body and what I truly wanted from life. For you, it could be starting that business that you continually tell yourself you will look into someday or even scheduling in a daily bike ride. Whatever it is that you find yourself settling on, you deserve better than that. You deserve to live your life to the fullest based on your hopes and dreams, and no one else’s. 

Tell us: What don’t you settle on? Let us know in the comments below! 

Tags: Uncompromising Women , Diana Di Poce